06 March, 2012

Relationship Principles: How to Get and Keep a Man

This is from the book Why Men Marry Bitches, and has some interesting principles on how to get and keep men you're interested in, and other womanly advice to not seem desperate.

While I agree with some I certainly do not agree with all of them. It really depends on what kind of game you're playing - or if you're playing a game at all.

Are these true? Have you had experiences where they work? Men, is this how you feel? Leave a comment below!


Relationship Principle 1: In romance there’s nothing more attractive to a man than a women who has dignity and pride in who she is.

Relationship Principle 2: He marries the women who won’t lay down like linoleum.

Relationship Principle 3: He doesn’t marry a woman who is perfect. He marries the woman who is interesting.

Relationship Principle 4: When a woman is trying too hard, a man will usually test to see how hard she’s willing to work for it. He’ll start throwing relationship Frisbees, just to see how hard she’ll run and how high she’ll jump.

Relationship Principle 5: Done believe what anyone tells you about yourself.

Relationship Principle 6: Men see how you dress, and then make assumptions about your relationship potential.

Relationship Principle 7: When a man sees you wearing very revealing clothes, he’ll usually assume you don’t have anything else going for you.

Relationship Principle 8: When he sees you scantily dressed, he is not reminded of how great you look naked. He immediately thinks of all the other men you’ve slept with.

Relationship Principle 9: Every guy knows he can find a girl who is simply satisfied with satisfying him. They are much more turned on by a woman who cares about her own pleasure as well.

Relationship Principle 10: You can tell how much someone respects you by how much he respects your opinion. If he doesn’t respect your opinion, he won’t respect you.

Relationship Principle 11: It is better to be disliked for being who you are than to be loved for who you are not.

Relationship Principle 12: Men like to be curious. They like to feel that there’s more to the story than what they already know.

Relationship Principle 13: The mental challenge is not, “Can I get her to sleep with me?” The mental challenge is,”Can I get and keep her attention?”

Relationship Principle 14: You power gets lost the minute start asking, “Where do I stand?” Because what you’ve just told him is that the terms of the relationship are now his to dictate.

Relationship Principle 15: As soon as a man has his guard up, he will not fall in love or get attached. The only way he’ll get attached is if you lower his guard first.

Relationship Principle 16: When a women rush in too quickly, a man will assume she is in love with a “fantasy” or the idea of having a relationship. But if he has to slowly win her over, incrementally, he’ll think she’s falling in love with who he is.

Relationship Principle 17: Don’t even mention the word “commitment.” That’s the whole trick. The less you say about it, the closer you are to getting one.

Relationship Principle 18: If he has no guarantees, becomes attached, and thinks you could be gone at any time, that’s when he’ll cherish the idea of securing a relationship. 

Relationship Principle 19: There’s nothing more prized to a man than something he had to wait for, work for, or struggle a little bit to get.

Relationship Principle 20: As soon as a woman hands a man a more serious commitment on a silver platter, he’ll be reluctant to take it.

Relationship Principle 21: Don’t be so blunt, obvious, or available that you come across as having already made up your mind about the guy.

Relationship Principle 22: You want to figure out his pattern, but don’t let him figure out yours.

Relationship Principle 23: Men are far more smitten when they feel like they are “stealing” your time away from something else you could have been doing.

Relationship Principle 24: When a woman make a man feel he’s trusted it makes him feel strong and worthy. It makes him want to be honourable and do the right thing.

Relationship Principle 25: Men like rules and they like guidelines. If there’s something you don’t like, he’ll respect you for voicing it. He wants to know what the “do’s and don’ts” are.

Relationship Principle 26: Men love knowing there’s a small part of you that they can’t get to.

Relationship Principle 27: Men read a lot into where you’ve been, by how dolled up you are when you get home. If you are dolled up and you weren’t with him, it will keep him wondering a little.

Relationship Principle 28: The magic formula is to give a little... and then pull back. Give a little... and then pull back.

Relationship Principle 29: Women are constantly being told amazing sex will win a man’s heart. This is false. Just because a man sleeps with you doesn’t mean he cares about you. Nor will good sex make him care about you.

Relationship Principle 30: the way to weed out the contenders from the pretenders is to assess their attitude about waiting for sex. If he likes you, he’ll be happy just being in your company.

Relationship Principle 31: The purpose of waiting is not just to seem classier. You also want to give yourself time to observe him and figure out key facts about him.

Relationship Principle 32: Who he tells you he is in the beginning has very little to without he will treat you. If there’s sex involved, he’ll promise you things you’ve never even heard of. 

Relationship Principle 33: When you aren’t mind-blown after sex, and you continue to focus on your own life, he’ll automatically start looking at you differently. Then he’ll start wanting to secure a relationship with you.

Relationship Principle 34: After sex, behave as if the relationship is still new.

Relationship Principle 35: Men are intrigued by anything they do not completely control.

Relationship Principle 36: when you maintain a bit of privacy and he has to wonder a little where you are, you are stimulating his imagination. The second he can’t get ahold of you he’ll send out an APB, or “all points bulletin”, to find you.

Relationship Principle 37: To a man, a relationship without sex represents a relationship with no love, no affection, and no emotional connection.

Relationship Principle 38: Always preserve the mystery. Keep the sex sporadic and unpredictable. It makes it much more intense for a man.

Relationship Principle 39: When a woman reacts emotionally, men get three things: attention, control and the feeling of importance.

Relationship Principle 40: when you are easily manipulated, he will assume he doesn’t have to give as much in the way of commitment in order to keep you there.

Relationship Principle 41: the best way to set limits with a guy when he’s testing you is by controlling the ebb and flow of you attention. An emotional reaction is always a reward, even if it’s negative attention.

Relationship Principle 42: Men hear what they see.

Relationship Principle 43: when a man tried to make you jealous, it rarely has anything to do with his desire for someone else. When you are upset he gets the reassurance that you care. 

Relationship Principle 44: Once you start doing the same thing he was doing, suddenly, the bad behaviour will magically disappear.

Relationship Principle 45: when a man doesn’t call, a bunch of scenarios will typically run through a woman’s mind. Similarly, his imagination will run wild when he doesn’t hear from you. 

Relationship Principle 46: The more rational and calm you remain, the more emotional he will become.

Relationship Principle 47: To a man, it is totally inappropriate to be emotional when talking about something important. When you speak calmly, he assumed it’s much more important.

Relationship Principle 48: Many men reduce women to a set of givens. A man relied on the fact that most women are emotional and that he’ll be able to push your emotional buttons once he find out where they are. When he can’t, he’ll often crumble and become the more vulnerable one in the relationship. 

Relationship Principle 49: He is testing to see if you believe in yourself. He wants to know who is at the controls. When you aren’t easily shaken he sees “This one can’t be manipulated.”

Relationship Principle 50: To encourage the right behaviour, state what you want, and then give him the solution. Show him how he can be your hero.

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